Attraction is both a wonderful and yet unusual phenomenon. I’ve often based my attraction on the physical, following the general flow of the world that we live in, rather than looking beyond that to the characteristics and personality of a person.
Recently I feel that this has been slowly changing, by the grace of God. I’ve made the effort to communicate and get to know people, mostly by way of facebook chat, but also by means of face to face conversations on a number of occasions as well. For me one of the most helpful things in these conversations is prayer; I continually ask people what I can be praying for them. Peoples responses are usually open and honest, and it is a joy and a privilege to be praying for these brothers and sisters in Christ, and I feel ashamed that I don’t do it as often as I should.
I find that there is the ever-present danger of my mind, especially as a guy, convincing me that because a sister is paying attention to me and interacting with me that she is “in love” with me and vice versa.
I’m interested to hear how it goes for you. If you’re married, how do you maintain relationships with the opposite sex? If you’re female, do you have the same or a similar danger?